About Modern Love Living

A lifestyle hub for the grown
and the curious.

Wine country at the good hour. And everything that happens after.

Modern Love Living is what we wished someone had handed us around year five — of the relationship, or the company, or adulthood generally. Not the pastel-font version of desire. Not the pharmacy-pamphlet one. The grown-up one, with the candle already lit.

We write from Northern California wine country because the pace here already had it right. A Healdsburg evening knows how to take its time. A Calistoga bath knows what it's for. We translate that same unhurried confidence to the rest of it — the bedroom, the drawer, the Tuesday you decide to stop performing and start paying attention.

We are not a magazine. We are not a catalog. We're the room next door to one of Sonoma County's best sensuality boutiques — Spice Sensuality in Santa Rosa — and we write for the woman and the couple who already know what they like, and are curious about the next thing.

An editor's writing desk at dusk in a Healdsburg cottage — open notebook, a half-full glass of red wine, a tapered candle burning low, and a tall paned window showing blurred vineyard rows outside — Most pieces are written at a desk that looks roughly like this. — Modern Love Living

What we publish, and why

Every piece is written by someone in her own bathrobe at 9:30 on a Tuesday. We believe in depth over hot takes, heat over shock, and specificity over the wellness-adjacent fog the rest of the internet will happily sell you.

The site is organized around who's actually reading — not arbitrary sections. For Couples for the partners who chose each other on purpose. Bachelorette for the weekend the bride will actually remember. Pride & Every Love for queer couples, open couples, long-together couples, and the friends-who-travel-together. Stories for the nights that want reading, not doing. The Mood Finder for when you're not sure where to start.

When we name a hotel room, we've slept in it. When we recommend an oil, we've used it. When we say "slow," we mean the specific kind of slow that ends where it was always going to end.

A Sonoma County vineyard at golden hour — long dirt path between cabernet rows, a weathered oak on a low hill, warm amber sky, and a single empty Adirondack chair turned toward the view — Wine country at the good hour. — Sonoma County

The house rules

Sophisticated without being precious. Warm without apologizing.

Specific

Named rooms, named bottles, named hotels, named oils. Euphemism is the enemy of a good evening. We'll tell you what it is.

Unrushed

We're not in a hurry. The best reads here are the ones that take twelve minutes to finish and change what your Saturday looks like.

Grown

This site is for adults who already know what they like — and are curious about the next thing. We'll never talk down or talk around.

The room next door.

Every story here has an answering drawer at Spice Sensuality — the luxury sensuality boutique at 3612 Industrial Drive, Santa Rosa. Discreet shipping, plain brown paper, no itemized receipts on the box.

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A lifestyle hub for the grown and the curious.